Podcasts

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Podcast #8 Understanding Marriage

I received a few emails from people interested in the whole point of couple’s therapy and one of you was kind enough to remind me that at times, I do speak a little quickly, and would I mind slowing up a little bit and going over some of the things. I appreciate those comments; so don’t hesitate at all to email your reactions to the content, or even to my style. So let me go back and reiterate some of the points we were talking about. We’re talking about marriage and marriage therapy. Before we get in to it, I want to refocus. A lot of times, people think that the primary and only function of marriage is children.

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Podcast #9 Why is Everyday Unhappiness Necessary?

Good morning. This is Dr. Gerry at the Psychotherapist Corner, 1490 WGCH. This morning I’m going to talk about something that may sound a little bit strange initially. Namely, why is everyday unhappiness necessary? Freud, as some of you may know, said by the end of a good treatment, the patient should be able to exchange neurotic misery, for everyday unhappiness.

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Podcast #10 Trust and The Life Cycle

Good morning. This is Dr. Gerry in The Psychotherapist’s Corner, 1490 WGCH. Last week I spoke to you about everyday unhappiness. What Freud meant by that term was that if we don’t really come to terms with everyday unhappiness, we’re just going to be subject to neurotic misery. Today I’d like to speak about some of the ingredients for happiness.

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Podcast #11 Thoughts About Identity

This morning, I’d like to continue what we spoke about last week, talking about Erik Erikson’s book, and I’m going to focus on the whole issue of personal identity, our personal identity. Just the recoup a little bit, Erikson talks about the eight stages of man, and without getting overly complicated here, I just thought I would highlight some of the positive things he has said i.e., we should be able to experience, and even provide for those who are in our care.

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Podcast #12 Marriage and Society

This morning I want to continue some of the things we started to discussed the last two sessions, namely identity, what does identity mean, what does it mean to have a democratic identity in a democracy such as us and also in marriage.

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Podcast #13 Self Worth, Marriage & Community

Good morning. This is Dr. Jerry, The Psychotherapist’s Corner, 1490 WGCH. This morning, I’d like to continue some of the things that we were talking about last week, namely in terms of, “What do we mean by a marriage consciousness, and what does that got to do with our lives, and the life in the community? What do we mean by a demo-cratic consciousness?” So, we talked about that a little last week and I want to continue that now. Okay.

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Podcast #14 Parenting, Divorce & Children

Good morning, This morning I’d like to talk about when divorce occurs. We’ve spoken about marriage consciousness, a kind of “we consciousness”, and the need to foster it as a way of experiencing a deeper relationship and actually as a way of accepting, in a marriage situation, what Ford spoke of when he spoke of everyday unhappiness. We’re not supposed to go through life jumping along, happy all the time. That’s obvious, and yet in practice a lot of times we forget it.

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Podcast #6: Play and Its Role in Relationships

Last week I spoke about work, and how work helps us find our own competence. And yet how careful we have to be that if we lose our job for example, we don’t start feeling that we’ve lost all of our competence. In that instance, we want to avoid the thought that we have nothing to offer the world and consequently we have no way of supporting ourselves. In other words, we want to avoid a self-defeating attitude that can easily lead to depression. Understandable, but one has to try to avoid it.

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Podcast #7 Remember the Past – To Live the Present

What I thought I’d talk about this morning is why marriage counseling can help for a couple that’s run into some difficulties. And when couples are unhappy, very frequently they just either live out that unhappiness, or they start talking about divorce. And I’d like to give a wider understanding of really what marriage counseling can provide.

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Podcast #5 Work: Finding Who We Are

This morning, I’d like to talk about work; why we work, should if work is work just a burden, or, is work something that can help fulfill as human beings.

Before I get to that, let me summarize, a little bit, from last week. We spoke, briefly, about love, in terms of our human need to feel love and give to love. As I mentioned, while a romantic occupation is part of love, I spoke of it more in terms of just willing something good to another person, taking care of, being considerate of, even being polite to a person, I believe, are small signs of love.

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Podcast #4: Thoughts About Love

This morning, what I’d like to talk about is, if you recall, I mentioned last week that if we’re going to be happy with ourselves, getting through this experience we call life, we have to be able to love, work and play. Let me just mention briefly, when I say play, the old Greek philosopher Aristotle said, “Play is the thing we do when we are free,” okay? So I’m not talking about just games. I’m talking about a level of experiencing life where we’re not constrained.

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Podcast #3: Inside/Outside and the Problem of Anxiety

This morning, I’m calling this show “Staying Positive, Self Knowledge with a Happy Outcome,” or “What Do We Do with Depression and Anxiety in Our Lives?” Actually, after so many years of practice, I can almost boil down the formula to the following, “We human beings should be able to love. We should be able to work and we should be able to play. And whatever interferes with that, is what we should try to understand and get rid of.”

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Podcast #2: Snow White and The Narcissistic Queen

Last week if you remember, I spoke about the human tendency to forget. In fact I quoted Barbra Streisand’s song, what is too painful to remember we simply forget. Very true. And yet, although that’s understandable and normal when we forget what was too painful or too hurtful it can bring about consequences in our lives, our relationships, our feelings about ourselves and how we interact with others. If we forget too much, we accumulate too much soot, so to speak. Remember I used the analogy of psychotherapy is like chimney cleaning and that if we don’t clean the chimney at least once a year, we’re in danger for putting the house on fire. If we don’t sit down and think about our life and where we’re going, and where we want to go and our relationships, we’re liable to accumulate too much soot in our life because we forgot about it.

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What is a Podcast?

For those that aren’t familiar, a podcast is simply a media file that you can download and listen to whenever it is convenient. In my case, my podcasts are files of my radio show that I have available for download on my website in case you aren’t able to listen live. You can listen to them right on your computer, or put them on an MP3 player, such as an iPod. Enjoy!

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Podcast #1: The Talking Cure

Welcome to The Psychotherapist’s Corner. I’m Doctor Jerry Gargiulo. First of all let me tell you why I’m calling the show The Psychotherapist’s Corner. I really mean it as a kind of metaphor for your mind; possibly a secluded place in your daily life where you can find an alone place to think about things. To think about what it means to live life, to live life happy, to live life sometimes sad, okay? We all need a psychotherapist’s corner. We all need a quiet corner literally or symbolically. That is if we’re not going to be tossed around by the turmoil of today’s events, of every day’s events. So I’m asking you to join me so that we both can create together, so to speak, in your daily work, where you can be alone and think about things that really ground us and help us live life in a fuller way.

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